From a guys Perspective

If a guy is good looking,
Don't immediately assume he is a playa. Not every Will Smith is Eric Bennet, so read beyond the fine print and you will be surprised. Don't deprive yourself a Mr. Gorgeous because of fear of the unknown, think about the children, they'll be good looking, minus years of trying to convince them they are "beautiful" and being called to the school cause s/he roughed some kid who called them Butt Face", "Mugabe", etc.
If a guy has a child with another woman
90% of the time, he'll go back to the woman. Either the woman will use the child to interrupt every moment you spend together, or the guy will realize he made a big mistake and go back to his "family". Chances of you winning over his child are nil, that's a battle you've already lost.
Advice: Leave Mr. Family Man or kill the child. Make your pick.
If a guy cheats on you, He'll do it again.
If you stay, he'll cheat even more. No woman can make a guy stop cheating, not even his mother. Cheaters are like a small kid, once they tasted sweets, no matter what you do or say, they'll find a way to get hold of them. Stop looking for water in a desert, because you'll find none.
Advice: Leave the looser and find a real man who'll give you his all OR stay with the cheat and be a subscriber of Kleenex Tissues, cos you will be weeping till you get to your grave. He might even find a girl to replace you, because he doesn't really need you, or he'll keep you to cook for him and do his laundry, while he gets his groove on.
If a guy hits you, Yes even if it's a slap - leave. If you stay, you have convinced him that it's okay if he beats you. Ladies, it is not love, it is lust. Stop convincing yourself that "if you hit a child, it's because you love them". You are not a child and he is not your parent. Do you go around beating up your best friends? Think about it! If a guy says he loves you,
Probably he truly does. Make sure you can differentiate between being in love and being in lust. How to do that?

Simple:
Does he cheat? Hit you? Insult you? Abuse you in anyway? If you answered "YES" to any of these, U ARE IN LUST - LEAVE!!!Does he respect you? Makes you feel special? Treat you like a queen? If you answered "YES" to any of these, U ARE IN LOVE - YOU LUCKY FISH, HOLD ON TO WHAT YOU'VE GOT!!!

Ladies, Don't be a statistic by committing suicide, being in a coma from his beatings or die from Aids which he infected you with. There is always life after a break up, Brace yourselves women, you have come this far, don't disappoint! God will never let you down and if you are looking for LOVE, Look within yourself and you will get enough.